How to tell him you dont want to hook up
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What are your experiences with guys who only want to hook up? Hey, letters2soulmate, happy to meet you! Make him spend time getting to know you. When you know your own worth, it shows. While I agree you never owe a guy anything, it's important to manage expectations and it sounds like you've been doing that well enough.
His conscience isn't going to kick in; you need to make the call.
We were dating; dating was shopping. If a guy meets a nice woman who he just doesn't see long term potential with, he puts her into Category 1, and he will still try to pursue her, but in a much different way than he would pursue a woman in Category 2. Never miss a thing. Of course, all hell breaks loose when the truth comes out.
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I agree that a clear verbal instruction is preferred to pushing my hand away. Let him get to know who you are beyond a hot body.
Guys tend to be more single-minded when it comes to dating. Sometimes however i get a little lonely and would find it refreshing to be able have a little intimacy with protection with someone on a regular basis without it leading to total committment. You probably both would like have sex every night, but you […].
But they will totally get it if you demand respect for your feelings, your body and your time. Every new attractive hookup was an affirmation of self, and my batting average was high. Fair enough, but don't be too hard on her for game playing.
What a twisted condition it is to be human. That way he could've demurred, leaving you with about the same result minus the "oh dang roommates are in our space" stoppage; he could've flat-out objected, letting you know he's not the right guy for this context; he could've agreed, netting you extra makeouts.
You cannot become soulmates through sex. And make it fun, fer Chrissakes. Or should we have just went to my room to make out and then stopped his advances when he tried to go further?
I used to think that I could get guys who only want to hook up t o eventually fall for me. If you believe that you deserve to be loved and are willing to wait for that special guy, then you will find him.